Hide the Hobbit

I am not sure if this incident is to do with ASD and 'mindblindness' or memory loss due to epilepsy, or impulsive behaviour due to ADHD or whether it is just plain sibling rivalry but I thought you might enjoy it!

A few weeks ago we were at a supermarket and Jed had taken his well earned and saved up pocket money with him in order to buy the long awaited (by him, not me!) film, the Hobbit.  He got to the shop and found the film.  As we continued to browse around the shop we became aware that Imogen was becoming irritated and picking up random (and sometimes inappropriate) films and putting them in the basket.  I asked her what she was doing and she replied that Jed was buying and film and so she wanted to as well. Unfortunately there really was nothing she actually wanted at the time (the new Tinkerbell film was not yet out!) and so we convinced her to leave it this time and to save her money.  Or so we thought....

When we got home, Murray and Jed settled themselves in front of the television and watched their epic while Imogen and I played.  Every now and then she would mention how unfair life was in the fact that she hadn't bought a film to watch too, but I was really unsuspecting.

At some point after the film Imogen must have decided that Jed should no longer own aforesaid DVD and decided to hide it.  We didn't realise that it had been hidden until about a week and a half later when Jed came in, upset that his DVD was not in his case.  Now this is not an uncommon occurrence in the Golder household, quite often the previously watched DVD will be left in the machine and then discarded somewhere on the cabinet when the next viewer comes along with another film so I didn't really take much notice - I just told him to go and have a better look.  When 48hours had passed and Jed was getting near distraught stage I started to wonder whether he could be right, had Imogen hidden the film? 'Surely not!' I thought, but by now my doubts were large enough to cause me to ask the question.  So, off I trot to Imogen who is oblivious to Jed's despair and playing happily in her room without a care in the world.  'Imogen' I ask, 'Did you hide Jed's DVD?'  

'Which one?' she asks. 

'The Hobbit, the one he saved up especially for' I reply.

'Oh....hmmmm...I might have done...let me see....yes...I think I might....but I can't remember where I put it......have you tried under the sofa?'

'Yes Imogen, I've looked there.'

'Have you looked on the bookshelf?'

'Yes, Ive looked there too.'

'Hmmm...well....I think I might have hidden it, but I don't know where now!' and she returns to her toys on the floor.

Now you have to understand that ASD causes very black and white thinking without being able to see anyone else's point of view.  So, when Imogen hid the DVD it was the worst thing in the world that could have happened to her.  She could not see, or let go of the fact that she didn't have a DVD too.  And when asked about hiding it she could not lie, there was no attempt to hide the fact that she probably did hide it, but at that moment in time her Aqua beads where far more important.  There have been similar times in the past where I have gotten angry with her, made her leave what she was doing to come and fix whatever it was that she had done, but she doesn't make the connection of what on earth it has to do with her, so she will gladly come and help the family, but cannot grasp that she was the cause of it - no matter how angry I (or Jed in this case) get.  It just confuses her.

Well this day I spend a good 3 hours looking for the DVD, and as a previous post of mine testifies, that doesn't put me in the best of moods.  I didn't find it that day, and so the search continued the next day.  I finally found the DVD (which I still haven't mustered the motivation to watch by the way) slipped between the DVDs in my boxed set of Gilmore Girls.  A sense of relief and 'flippin heck it was her all along' washed over me.

I took the DVD to Imogen.  'I found Jed's DVD Imogen' I said.

'Oh, where was it?' she asked.

'In my box of Gilmore Girls DVDs'

And her response; 'Oh yes, I remember now, I did put it there!.....Sorry Jed!'